- I have a very aggressive student in my class who’s constantly disruptive, and honestly, it's throwing everything off. The learning environment is falling apart because of him, and nothing I try seems to work. I’m at a breaking point, but I’m afraid that if I ask for help, my principal will think I can’t handle my job. What am I supposed to do?
Managing aggressive behavior while maintaining a safe and productive classroom is exhausting—physically, mentally, and emotionally.
First, know that it’s okay to ask for help—it doesn’t mean you’re not capable or strong enough as a teacher. My first year of teaching, I learned this the hard way when I hesitated to reach out because I thought it might reflect poorly on me. Looking back, I realize that getting support sooner would have made a huge difference—not just for me, but for the student and the rest of the class.
Have you been able to identify any patterns or triggers for the student’s behavior? Sometimes, understanding what’s fueling the aggression can help guide the next steps. And if you haven’t already, looping in a counselor, behavior specialist, or administrator could offer a fresh perspective and support.
I know how discouraging this scenario can feel. Galatians 6:10 reminds us that, “Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers (NIV).”
However, that’s easier said than done when you’re in the thick of it. But please know that what you’re doing matters. Even if you don’t see the impact right away, your patience, consistency, and care are planting seeds that could change this student’s trajectory.
Have you faced a similar situation? Who or what helped you navigate it? Share your thoughts in the comments—I’d love to hear your perspective!
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I am now retired, but many years ago, when I returned to the U.S. from another country where I was a missionary, I was given a class in a public school with a very difficult child. I tried everything I knew, including prayer (not in school) to no avail. I finally decided to go to the principal. I was honest with him and said to him I didn’t know what he wanted to do with me, but there was no learning going on in my classroom when Tim (not his real name) was in school. (I heard that the previous teacher for that class lost her job, and I was the successor). I expected to lose my job that day. Instead, the principal said either he or the A.P. would come into my room everyday and remover Tim from the classroom; no guarantee what time they would come, or for how long. He kept his word from that point on. When he or the A.P. left with Tim, I doubled down and completed as much as I could with the class for the day. From that point, the administration needed to deal with Tim (who pulled all the wires out of the walls in the A.P’s office one day while she stepped for some reason.) My suggestion: do everything you can and fervently pray. Then follow the leading of the Lord — He’s very creative.
Marlene, thank you for sharing such a powerful story of faith, courage, and resilience. Your honesty, persistence, and willingness to seek help—not to mention your commitment to prayer—are deeply moving. It’s incredible how your principal responded with support and creativity, showing how leadership and faith can intersect in meaningful ways. Your story is a beautiful reminder that sometimes the most profound answers come when we step out in honesty and trust. Thank you for your years of service and for blessing others with your journey.